Love our husbands

Women superiority culture. We have come into this feminist movement guns blazing tearing down men along the way. Women can do everything better than men and men can do nothing right.

I would watch those TV shows when I was young where the women were constantly bashing their husbands and making them look so stupid. I thought, why would any woman want to get married to a stinky worthless man like that? They portrayed them to look like pigs.

It’s now come to the point where men probably think they’re incompetent to please a woman because that’s what they’re told over and over. How does this help our young men we’re raising to have any confidence?

You’ve seen it on social media, challenges to make your spouse look like a fool. Women constantly complaining over what their men can’t do. Could it be possible he gave up trying to please you because nothing would? When we are in this state of bitterness, we cannot love or be loved.

This is what happens when an entire society disrupts the perfect biblical model and plan for families. Men were created to be the headship over the woman to protect them. Women were created to be the nurturing mechanism for the family unit. The two work very well together when done properly, but we have to leave the lies society has fed us.

I fell into this trap once upon a time when I was newly married. I would find dirty socks on the ground and grumble, why couldn’t he pick that up. Washing my hands in the sink, trimmed beard hairs or toothpaste remnant would just stare back at me, and I would be furious. The last time he did dishes, I stood over him telling him how wrong he did it. Never once did I think maybe he didn’t have time to pick up those things because he had stayed up late to watch a movie he didn’t care about with me because he knew it was what I wanted. Possibly he was trying to get ready in the dark in the wee hours of the morning so he wouldn’t disturb me sleeping. Yet, I would find every chance I could to belittle my husband and speak harshly.

So many times I never thought for a moment, what am I doing wrong? What is my heart posture? What have I done today to fill my husband’s cup and help with his burden? What could I change about my attitude to make him want to spend time with me? Have I ever even asked for help or told him how overwhelmed I am?

How can we change this? First on social media or in social circles with your friends don’t join in on the husband bashing and hating, offer to pray for our own hearts to be softened first. Be a helpmeet to our husbands with a servant’s heart. Think of little ways we can make our home more welcoming when he gets off of work. Every time you complain or have a thought, write it down and pray about that.

The last thing I would challenge you to do, write a list of all the things your husband does for your home and thank him for those.

Some from my list: goes to work cheerfully daily, makes sure my car is running, helps plant food, mucks the chicken coop, hunts and processes our meat, plays with our children, does my remodel projects, listens to my dreams and plans for homesteading and makes them happen.